A dear friend posted this quote via Facebook this morning and then it resurfaced during yoga.
“You cannot get sick enough to help sick people get better. You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive. It is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer anyone. If you’re wanting to be of an advantage to others, be as tapped in, turned in, turned on as you can possibly be.” -Esther Abraham-Hicks
After reading it slowly and allowing it to sink in, not only did it make so much sense that it nearly scared me but I was able to draw multiple connections in several aspects of my life and recent events.
The biggest one that hit close to home? How am I ever going to be an advantage to others when I am literally allowing others to take advantage of me. Right?!
Well it’s been happening, until last Wednesday when I finally stood up for myself. Let me tell you, it was and continues to be extremely uncomfortable. Standing up for yourself, uncomfortable? As silly as it sounds, it’s also true. Seriously, probably one of the hardest things that I have done in a very long time.
How people view me doesn’t typically matter in my book. It’s a reflection of them, not me. So when I get the occasional rude comment, stare or snicker, I am able to brush it off and move on or wallow for a hot second and then brush it off and move on. These incidents I expect to happen in public but over the past few months they have been occurring in a place where I deserve to feel safe. That was where I drew the line.
After it was all said and done and I took the proper course of action to resolve the situation, I felt relieved and maybe even a little proud of myself. But those feelings were soon over shadowed by guilt and sadness. Soon enough I was more preoccupied with how the person at the other end of the equation was going to be affected.
Grateful am I to have some amazing people in my life who turned my frown upside down. Their justifications were helpful and appreciated. Until this morning, they were the only things keeping me going.
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After yoga and the events of the morning I came home and really sat with the meaning of what Esther Hicks was saying. Then it hit me. [One] of my biggest passions in life is to help others. But how in the world is that possible if I’m not even comfortable with standing up for myself. The two ends weren’t quite matching up. So I got to thinking that there is a little equation to this whole defending yourself thing…
1. Love YOU.